Monique

“I prayed for God to show my white friend her privilege — and instead, God showed me my error.”

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What they struggled with

Father wound Anger Unforgiveness

False refuges

Identity / performance

What this story reveals about God

Patience Father's heart Teacher's heart Restorer Relentless pursuit

Religious background

Protestant Christian

Main testimony theme

Deepening Faith

How they came to faith

Relational influence Intellectual conviction

Content advisory

Before you watch

This testimony contains no graphic content but does not flinch from the wounds of racism, father abandonment, and the disorientation of having a lifelong worldview shattered. What makes it worth watching is the rare honesty of a woman who asked God to change her friend — and found God changing her instead.

What this story teaches

People can hold genuine faith in God while simultaneously holding a competing framework that functionally displaces the gospel — and God is willing to dismantle the framework without destroying the person.

How God moved

The lie Monique carried

Race is the most important thing about me, and systems — not sin — are our biggest problem.

What Jesus showed her

Monique had built her entire identity around race and carried the wound of father abandonment into her relationship with God — terrified that if she got it wrong, God would leave her too. The Lord showed her that her racial framework, not her friend's whiteness, was the error she needed to face.

Go Deeper

Make sure that before you leave you take time to make sure that your heart is in right relationship with God. Do you need to repent of your sin? Or perhaps you need to forgive someone who has sinned against you. If you've been hurt because of racist acts — forgive. And if you have been the one like me who has held racism in your heart and has treated people unequally or poorly or have held hatred in your heart because of someone's skin color — repent. A few years ago I had a decision to make. I had to choose who I was going to serve, who was I going to follow — was it going to be social justice and critical race theory, or was it going to be Jesus Christ, the God who lived, died, and resurrected so that I could have true relationship with him. You also have a decision to make. My encouragement to you would be to put your faith, hope, and trust in the God of the Bible, in Jesus Christ.

People can hold genuine faith in God while simultaneously holding a competing framework that functionally displaces the gospel — and God is willing to dismantle the framework without destroying the person.

What you can take from this

This week, identify one belief you hold about people, society, or yourself that you have never tested against scripture — not just a verse, but a whole book. Ask God to show you where your framework and his word diverge.

Counterfeit spirituality

Critical race theory was taught not as one framework among many but as 'the way the world is.' It mimicked prophetic justice language, gave Monique a complete worldview, and displaced the gospel as her primary lens — she believed systems, not sin, were humanity's core problem.

Core lie

Race was the most important thing about her — her identity was constructed around ethnicity rather than her relationship with God. This made her unable to receive fellowship from white Christians and kept her in a posture of suspicion and division within the body of Christ.

Spirit of fear

After coming to faith, Monique was very afraid that if she did her relationship with God wrong, he would leave her the same way her earthly father left her. This fear kept her from actually learning the word of God in context for years.

Isolation pattern

The belief that 'all white spaces aren't safe for black people' functionally isolated Monique from large portions of the body of Christ, including her predominantly white Christian college, making genuine cross-racial fellowship feel dangerous.

1

I asked the Lord to help build a paradigm that was really biblical. I really wanted to know God's word because I still had a heart that wanted to please my father.

2

If you have been the one like me who has held racism in your heart and has treated people unequally or poorly or have held hatred in your heart because of someone's skin color — repent.

3

I used to say that I was a black and then fill in the blank. I'm still black but it's not the most important thing about me.

Monique's Christian Walk

Prayer

The power of Prayer — Friend and housemate stood in the gap for Monique.

Christa invited Monique to stay with her family for several months after returning from South Africa, then persistently challenged her racial worldview through direct questions — including 'How would you falsify this?' and asking whether she could defend her claims from a biblical position. She refused to let go of the friendship through knock-down drag-out fights, modelling committed truth-telling love over months of conflict.

Is today your day?

Yes — I'm Ready

Absolutely, He will.

You don't have to figure everything out right now.

You don't need to have all the answers.

If something stirred in your heart while you were watching or reading — that's not nothing.

That is the Holy Spirit gently knocking on the door of your heart.

Stay right here. There's no rush. The Spirit doesn't pressure or hurry.

Watch another video. Read a little more. Take your time.

When you're ready — even if “ready” just means a little curious — Jesus is ready to meet you.

You don't have to clean up your life first.

You don't have to pass any test.

You only need to say a simple “yes” to Him.

He will take care of the rest.

“So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.”

Luke 11:9

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